First we should be hot and bothered because quite frankly, that photo was kinda sexy. Second, we shouldnt get our panties in a bunch over this situation because men get caught up in sexually exciting fantasies and his fantasy is none of our business. He is no different than your husband, son, father or neighbor. It doesn't matter that Anthony Weiner is a public figure, what he did is none of OUR business. It is only the business between him and his wife. His performance on the job is totally unrelated to what he did. I understand why he lied, he was freaked out by being caught. He should have come forward earlier but who cares???? Not our business. He's nothing like Clinton or Nixon either. He committed NO crime and he didn't have an affair. Ugh people, sex is out there and people need to get over themselves.
I say what Mr. Weiner (a hilariously ironic name) was doing what a lot of American men do, he was playing out an exciting sexual fantasy behind a cloud of shame and when he got caught he lied. Most of us that get caught doing something that society has deemed sinful or bad, we lie. Its in our human nature to do so. I say let him be. He's embarrassed and has only his wife to answer to now.
Think about it, just 40 years ago we demanded that men change behaviors that they were accustomed to doing for centuries. In evolutionary terms this amount of time is miniscule. How can we expect men to disregard their primal urges this fast, or even ever?
I believe that in a way, 60's feminism is the direct cause of the sexual inappropriateness that most men engage in now every day. OK, now I know Im sounding like a right wing nut here but hear me out. I am a daughter of a feminist and one myself. I believe in equal rights for women and I demand strict justice when women have been raped. I believe in a woman's right to choose to have an abortion if she needs one. I condemn any man that demeans or physically harms any woman. With that said, we have asked men to be monogamous, rarely sexed (as in most cases with married folks), sensitive emotional supporters. Im sorry but even the most emotionally sensitive men I know like sex and they like it a lot.
I believe that men are ruled by their sexual desire to procreate. Most men I know are able to tame their urges and keep it to their partners or themselves by looking at porn. If we ask them to curb this really strong sexual desire they will, without a doubt find an outlet elsewhere. They will seek out more damaging sexual encounters. Some of those that ruin careers and families. To married women in hetero relationships I say, let our primal sexual men be just that. And if you cant do all the kinky shit he wants, let him look at porn and masturbate. Get over your egos and tell him its ok. Let him get away from the shame so that he doesn't feel like he needs to stray and lie.
My hope for the future is that we can all be equal, while understanding just how different men and women truly are. If you take away too much from people they will become violent and destructive and in the case for men in our time we are witnessing just that. We have taken away their machismo by restricting their sexuality to an idea conceived by women and our wonderful men are rioting with infidelity and bad behavior. That is not equality. We need to figure out how to coexist by letting women be free to make their own choices and by letting men get their freak on.
June 7, 2011
April 26, 2011
Rainy day Toughts about Bullying
Last week I read a news report about a family that is upset about the punishment that their child's bully was given. The article it recalls an all to familiar account of some sad kid bullying another sad kid. In this case the police were called and the bully "confessed" and was punished with 20 hours of community service, eight to 10 counseling sessions, and a letter of apology.
But, I'm a little confused. What exactly does this family want from the accused? I can empathize with how horrible it is to be on the receiving end of an attack like this. It hurts everyone in the family and many in the community and it is very hard to move through life when someone feels threatened and afraid. On the flip side, the kids that torment others aren't just born ass holes. They too are in pain, thus the bullying. They may not understand why they are doing it and for this girl counseling sessions seem like the appropriate course of action. And as for the bomb threat, 20 hours of community service might be a little low, but that seems about right for a juvenile. So what? What more does this family want? Any punishment this bully gets wont bring back their daughters leg or her confidence.
I think we need to really start looking at the bigger picture. Everywhere I go I encounter people who blame something else for why they feel so shitty. In fact, for most of my life I blamed my father's early departure from my family for all the bad feelings I had. Bullies have no voice except when bullying and the victims inevitably seek blood from their attacker. The Bully is rarely heard blaming anyone for why they bully but boy, is there ever a firestorm of blame from the victims and society. Its the schools fault, or the police. The bully is a bad person or comes from a bad family. All these things we say to get away from the reality that we live in a hugely populated world, yet we feel so utterly alone because we have lost our sense of community.We don't care for one another anymore. We live with the mindset that every person is for themselves. I just don't understand what is so American about being polarized, but its the way we've become and I believe its will be the reason we fall. You can see it when one sad kid beats the shit out of another sad kid.
But, I'm a little confused. What exactly does this family want from the accused? I can empathize with how horrible it is to be on the receiving end of an attack like this. It hurts everyone in the family and many in the community and it is very hard to move through life when someone feels threatened and afraid. On the flip side, the kids that torment others aren't just born ass holes. They too are in pain, thus the bullying. They may not understand why they are doing it and for this girl counseling sessions seem like the appropriate course of action. And as for the bomb threat, 20 hours of community service might be a little low, but that seems about right for a juvenile. So what? What more does this family want? Any punishment this bully gets wont bring back their daughters leg or her confidence.
I think we need to really start looking at the bigger picture. Everywhere I go I encounter people who blame something else for why they feel so shitty. In fact, for most of my life I blamed my father's early departure from my family for all the bad feelings I had. Bullies have no voice except when bullying and the victims inevitably seek blood from their attacker. The Bully is rarely heard blaming anyone for why they bully but boy, is there ever a firestorm of blame from the victims and society. Its the schools fault, or the police. The bully is a bad person or comes from a bad family. All these things we say to get away from the reality that we live in a hugely populated world, yet we feel so utterly alone because we have lost our sense of community.We don't care for one another anymore. We live with the mindset that every person is for themselves. I just don't understand what is so American about being polarized, but its the way we've become and I believe its will be the reason we fall. You can see it when one sad kid beats the shit out of another sad kid.
April 19, 2011
Suggested
It was suggested by a Facebook friend that I start blogging. I suppose its because I say so much on that site that I could really say better on a blog. So here I am, revamped. Oh I just love that word, VAMP!
Ok, Food. I love food. I love to eat food. I love to cook food. I love to discuss food. I love to take photos of food. All will be documented here.
Politics. Im not an expert and Im not as smaht as some of my amazing friends. But I am passionate and will say what I want when I need to.
Art, I am an artist and am inspired by everything, so I aim to post items I am turned on by.
Parenting, I am opinionated and concerned about today's parenting styles. I try not to judge, but sometimes I do. But as usual I say what I feel and dont back down.
Wife- Hmm, what to say about being a wife. I know, I love my Husband.
That's all for today
Ok, Food. I love food. I love to eat food. I love to cook food. I love to discuss food. I love to take photos of food. All will be documented here.
Politics. Im not an expert and Im not as smaht as some of my amazing friends. But I am passionate and will say what I want when I need to.
Art, I am an artist and am inspired by everything, so I aim to post items I am turned on by.
Parenting, I am opinionated and concerned about today's parenting styles. I try not to judge, but sometimes I do. But as usual I say what I feel and dont back down.
Wife- Hmm, what to say about being a wife. I know, I love my Husband.
That's all for today
April 14, 2009
Day of Silence & Private School
When I'm at the playground I'm often asked where I send Elliot to school. Having many friends that are really big on public school plus being unemployed in this horrifying economy, I often feel like I need to make an excuse as to why I have Elliot in a private school when we can barely afford it.
But today I got our weekly newsletter and was quickly reminded why I chose this remarkable school for Elliot and hopefully Atticus, and I will not ever feel the need to make excuses. I am so proud that we have made this decision. Read the notice I got today about the day of silence.
Day of Silence
On Friday, April 17, some CFS middle school students will participate in the Day of Silence. The Day of Silence is a national student-led day of action when concerned students take a vow of silence to bring attention to the name-calling, bullying and harassment that is often experienced by gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people and their allies. These actions can lead to silencing of GLBT students and people, so that they do not feel that they can speak out and be themselves. On this day, concerned students take a vow of silence to bring attention to the ways that GLBT people feel silenced. Last year, when CFS students participated for the first time, they joined hundreds of thousands of students at more than 8,000 schools across the country.
The CFS Day of Silence is organized by the CFS Middle School Gay/Straight Alliance (GSA). Participation is voluntary, and those students who choose to participate will continue to attend their regularly scheduled classes.
But today I got our weekly newsletter and was quickly reminded why I chose this remarkable school for Elliot and hopefully Atticus, and I will not ever feel the need to make excuses. I am so proud that we have made this decision. Read the notice I got today about the day of silence.
Day of Silence
On Friday, April 17, some CFS middle school students will participate in the Day of Silence. The Day of Silence is a national student-led day of action when concerned students take a vow of silence to bring attention to the name-calling, bullying and harassment that is often experienced by gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people and their allies. These actions can lead to silencing of GLBT students and people, so that they do not feel that they can speak out and be themselves. On this day, concerned students take a vow of silence to bring attention to the ways that GLBT people feel silenced. Last year, when CFS students participated for the first time, they joined hundreds of thousands of students at more than 8,000 schools across the country.
The CFS Day of Silence is organized by the CFS Middle School Gay/Straight Alliance (GSA). Participation is voluntary, and those students who choose to participate will continue to attend their regularly scheduled classes.
April 1, 2009
April Fools Day
Hey honey, I'm pregnant!No really, were having twins!
Since I was a child, a sensitive only child, I have HATED April fools day. This day is fodder for insecure kids to mock everyone they deem worthy. Aka, even more insecure kids that are far too sensitive to make fun of anyone else. The immature taunts and relentless teasing about how gullible I am made this day a horror for me in grammar school and I couldnt wait for it to fall on a weekend day. I wasnt one of those nerdy kids that got teased al the time, I'm just gullible, and as a kid, I was really insecure. Thats a double whammy and not fun for a 6 year old me at all.
Now its different, I have confidence and can take a punch. But I see my almost 5 year old walking the same path I did. He's a sensitive little guy and gets hurt easily when someone tries to fool him. So again I dread this day. It wasn't even on my radar until we got to school and all of his little friends were taunting each other with April fools jokes. I forgot to explain to him what April fools was all about. So cringing, I left Pre-K hoping that he makes it through the battle unharmed. But im preparing for this afternoons pickup, arming myself with love and confidence building tools! Hopefully I wont have to say a word.
March 30, 2009
Action Jackson
Ok, thats it. I love reading other peoples blogs about food & kids.
So why am I not blogging about my food & my kids? Seems that there
is enough interest out there in both of these subjects that someone may
read my shit. I spell bad. My grammar is worse. I have fun, I love life.
So here goes. Just after I get Elliot from School Shit, Im going to be late!
So why am I not blogging about my food & my kids? Seems that there
is enough interest out there in both of these subjects that someone may
read my shit. I spell bad. My grammar is worse. I have fun, I love life.
So here goes. Just after I get Elliot from School Shit, Im going to be late!
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