First we should be hot and bothered because quite frankly, that photo was kinda sexy. Second, we shouldnt get our panties in a bunch over this situation because men get caught up in sexually exciting fantasies and his fantasy is none of our business. He is no different than your husband, son, father or neighbor. It doesn't matter that Anthony Weiner is a public figure, what he did is none of OUR business. It is only the business between him and his wife. His performance on the job is totally unrelated to what he did. I understand why he lied, he was freaked out by being caught. He should have come forward earlier but who cares???? Not our business. He's nothing like Clinton or Nixon either. He committed NO crime and he didn't have an affair. Ugh people, sex is out there and people need to get over themselves.
I say what Mr. Weiner (a hilariously ironic name) was doing what a lot of American men do, he was playing out an exciting sexual fantasy behind a cloud of shame and when he got caught he lied. Most of us that get caught doing something that society has deemed sinful or bad, we lie. Its in our human nature to do so. I say let him be. He's embarrassed and has only his wife to answer to now.
Think about it, just 40 years ago we demanded that men change behaviors that they were accustomed to doing for centuries. In evolutionary terms this amount of time is miniscule. How can we expect men to disregard their primal urges this fast, or even ever?
I believe that in a way, 60's feminism is the direct cause of the sexual inappropriateness that most men engage in now every day. OK, now I know Im sounding like a right wing nut here but hear me out. I am a daughter of a feminist and one myself. I believe in equal rights for women and I demand strict justice when women have been raped. I believe in a woman's right to choose to have an abortion if she needs one. I condemn any man that demeans or physically harms any woman. With that said, we have asked men to be monogamous, rarely sexed (as in most cases with married folks), sensitive emotional supporters. Im sorry but even the most emotionally sensitive men I know like sex and they like it a lot.
I believe that men are ruled by their sexual desire to procreate. Most men I know are able to tame their urges and keep it to their partners or themselves by looking at porn. If we ask them to curb this really strong sexual desire they will, without a doubt find an outlet elsewhere. They will seek out more damaging sexual encounters. Some of those that ruin careers and families. To married women in hetero relationships I say, let our primal sexual men be just that. And if you cant do all the kinky shit he wants, let him look at porn and masturbate. Get over your egos and tell him its ok. Let him get away from the shame so that he doesn't feel like he needs to stray and lie.
My hope for the future is that we can all be equal, while understanding just how different men and women truly are. If you take away too much from people they will become violent and destructive and in the case for men in our time we are witnessing just that. We have taken away their machismo by restricting their sexuality to an idea conceived by women and our wonderful men are rioting with infidelity and bad behavior. That is not equality. We need to figure out how to coexist by letting women be free to make their own choices and by letting men get their freak on.
